TransBareAll is pleased to announce that the date is now set for our next Retreat. We will be returning to Hathersage in the middle of the beautiful Peak District for a new residential weekend retreat. After the success of our first mixed men’s retreat last year TBA is delighted to be hosting our second retreat for trans* and cis men (a term used for those who are not trans), who are queer/gay/bi (QGBI) identified. In recent years we’ve been approached by QGBI trans* men who want to meet cisgendered guys but who worry about how to approach the cisgendered scenes, or who are nervous about how they will be received as trans* men. Likewise, many cisgendered QGBI men want to know more about trans*men but are worried that they will say something ‘wrong’ or not be welcome in trans* inclusive spaces. So, we’re hosting this retreat again to enable these groups of men to come together and learn more about each other – our bodies, our identities, and our cultures.
Bookings will open from 6pm Monday 9th September 2013 and are on a first come first served basis. http://www.transbareall.co.uk/event-booking-form/
We need a £20 deposit paid within two weeks of booking to secure your place.
The retreat aims to enable trans* and cis men to gain greater insight into each other’s lives and communities, to improve confidence and self-esteem in relation to forming friendships and relationships, and to explore sex and intimacy in between trans* and cis men.
Over the course of the weekend we will be running a series of workshops. Sex 101 – What gets us off? What gets us hot? What are our limits? And what would I do if only I knew more about it? This interactive workshop will explore our likes and dislikes, our soft and hard limits, our fears and hopes – and the opportunity to explore the answers to all those questions we have never asked before!
Negotiation – How do we get the sex we want? How do we begin to negotiate sex with someone who doesn’t know if we are trans* or cis? And how do we kick-start those conversations about the sex we want – and the sex we don’t want? This interactive workshop will help to explore these questions, building on experiences of participants, through small groups discussions and (non-compulsory!) role-play.
Best Sex, Least Harm – Making it Count, England’s collaborative planning framework to minimize HIV during sex between men is based on the principle of having the best sex with the least harm. This workshop will explore how we might do this: are there risks we are prepared to take to get the best sex we want? What are the risks of sex practices we might enjoy? And how do we go about negotiating and getting the best sex with the least harm?
WHAT YOU NEED
All participants are asked to come with an open mind and a desire to understand. You are asked to approach the weekend with an expectation of and a delight in being challenged in many ways.
An important part of the TBA Retreat is the opportunity for people to be partially or fully naked in some of the spaces if they want to, with no pressure, depending on what they feel comfortable with. We’ve found it to be really empowering, giving a unique opportunity to see other bodies in a safe and supportive environment. People get to see various body types and can talk to each other about their experiences.
Please make sure that you read through the Code of Conduct for this retreat before booking on. This can be found on our website at http://www.transbareall.co.uk/code-of-care-and-conduct/
The dates will be Friday 22nd to Sunday 24th November. We ask that people arrive between 3.30pm and 7pm on the Friday. On the Sunday we will go for lunch, with those who can make it, at 1pm. We recommend that you join us as its a great way to get back into the real world after an intense weekend.
Please take a look at our website for more info on what we’ve done in the past and to read people’s experiences of a retreat. www.transbareall.co.uk
Comments from previous retreats:
“I admire how safe + supported you allowed everyone to feel”
“Unforgettable + unique I will deffo come again. Thanks”
“It was a space where I felt entirely safe to challenge myself. I felt like my opinions would be heard. Being myself felt effortless which it rarely does”
“A really great sense of camaraderie from being with a diverse group of trans men.”
The cost for the weekend is £65 – low wage, £85 – standard wage or £100 – high wage and includes dorm style accommodation and food. We also offer the choice to donate or sponsor another place. All the money we get in from this will go towards subsiding places for people who might struggle to pay the fee. We ask for a £20 deposit to secure your place. Please note that we can arrange payment plans for those who wish to split payment into more affordable chunks. Please contact us if you want to discuss payment arrangements. The accommodation comprises of dorms and small bunk beds. You can pay by cheque or bank transfer. Please contact us for bank details if you wish to pay that way.
Travel – we recommend that you book travel in advance to get as cheap a deal as possible. If travelling by public transport, there is a train service running to Hathersage from Sheffield and Manchester. Check out Megabus for cheap train and coach tickets. If you’re driving
to the retreat, parking is available, so please book a parking space with us. If you’re able to offer lifts for others, please let us know so that we’re able to put people in touch with each other.
There are only 22 places available, so please make sure you book early to avoid disappointment and confirm with us that you have a place before you send your deposit. The retreats are very popular and usually get booked up very quickly! If you have any questions or wish to discuss anything regarding the retreat, please don’t hesitate to contact us.
Please pass this on through your networks.
We look forward to hearing from you soon.
Lee, Jay and Will.
Date: 22nd – 24th November 2013
Time: Arrive Friday 3.30pm – 7pm, Depart Sunday 1pm – 3.30pm
Location: Hathersage, Derbyshire
Price: £65, £85 or £100
Accommodation: Dorms and bunk beds
Jay co-created TransBareAll in 2008, along with Lee. The organisation aims to support trans* people’s health and wellbeing, for example by supporting them to explore their identities and achieve greater comfort with their bodies. Jay has spoken at conferences in the UK and
in other countries, and facilitated training and workshops for a diverse range of audiences. His background is in Health Psychology (MSc) and in research and he co-leads a research organisation: Traverse Research. He was recently contracted to the Scottish Transgender Alliance to lead the first UK Trans* Mental Health Survey.
Lee has been working with the trans community for over 11 years, on a local and national level. Since being involved in the Transtastic Men Calendar in 2008, (where TBA came from), he has found a passion for working with trans people exploring issues such as identities, confidence, sexual diversity and bodies. He loves seeing the amazing impact that the work he’s involved in with TBA has on individuals. He also works self employed as a trans awareness trainer and enjoys watching people learn and discover.
Will has worked and volunteered in community health and environmental activism for over two decades. He is a co-founder of the UK’s LGBT Health summit; was Head of Health Promotion at Terrence Higgins Trust; and is now studying for a doctorate in public health. Will has facilitated a wide range of sexual health workshops, training and events, and lectures in sexual health, and health promotion in London. As well as an interest in HIV prevention and sexual health, Will has become an ally for trans* men’s health since first collaborating with Jay and Lee in 2008.